"Hi Sandman, The problem with TFL or true forced loneliness is the forced element. Being alone is fine, but only when it is your choice. If ...
"Hi Sandman, The problem with TFL or true forced loneliness is the forced element. Being alone is fine, but only when it is your choice. If you want relationships, be they platonic friendships with men or women or romantic relationships with women, it is extremely painful when no one wants to be your friend or your lover. I was the guy in junior and senior high school who desperately wanted to fit in, but still ended up eating lunch alone or awkwardly sharing a table with fellow students, with whom I was not close and who were sometimes antagonistic towards me. My adult friendships have been very limited. In fact, I presently have no friends outside of family. I get along well with my co-workers, but it is all superficial. The difference between my youthful ostracism and my self-imposed adult aloofness is that the latter is a choice. I honestly have no desire to have close friends. I get invited to happy hours, poker games, and other after-hour get-together, but I never attended one and I likely never will. I actually hate eating lunch with other people. I much prefer eating at desktop or at an empty table with my iPhone than I do with co-workers. It's not that I don't like people, it is just that I never learned how to connect with people and form genuine friendships when I was a child, so it is impossible for me to do so as an adult. I always feel alone and like an outcast, even in a crowd, while at work, and sometimes even around family. As far as women go, Sandman you are spot on when he said that TFLers will fall headfirst into the first vagina they gain access to, as this was so for me. Any woman who embraces a TFLer for who they are is not a woman worth your time. That they are interested in a man with TFL issues is indicative that they also have major issues. Up until I was 25, I lived in my mother's basement. I was not obese, I worked, and paid a nominal monthly rent - but yeah, I was a total loser and had nothing going for me. Then I met the woman who would become my first wife. There were so many issues and red flags (carousel rider, daddy issues, constantly needing male attention, still hung up with her ex-boyfriend ), but I did not care, as she was the first woman with whom I ever had any term relationship. Within six months we eloped and the next three years were utter hell. Everyone in my family warned me about her, but it did not stop me. I knew they were right, but I thought I could make it work. I did not want to be alone anymore. I went from my mother's basement to her parents' basement. My wife was an insanely jealous histrionic narcissistic, who accused me of having an incestuous relationship with my sister. She was jealous of any woman who was prettier than she and the mere mention of another woman, whom she did not know, could spark a fit of destructive rage. Within a year her parents made us move out of their house, because of the fighting. We lived together for two more years and had a kid, before getting a divorce. After we split up, I moved back into my mother's basement. I hardly saw my family when we were married, so I spent the next year just getting back in touch with my family.nnnnn10 pictures paid for and licensed through BigStock.com (In order of appearance)nn1. viewapart - Sporty Man Refreshing With Cold Water After Run Training In The Parknhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-96238832/stock-photo-sporty-man-refreshing-with-cold-water-after-run-training-in-the-park-sport-fitness-haappy-modelnn2. pasiphae - Thirsty Man On Parched Soilnhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-49760651/stock-photo-thirsty-man-on-parched-soilnn3. gstockstudio - Refreshing After Trainingnhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-78137477/stock-photo-refreshing-after-trainingnn4. master1305 - The spellbound man in denim shirt with glass of beernhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-106906349/stock-photo-the-spellbound-man-in-denim-shirt-with-glass-of-beernn5. alphaspirit - Economic desperationnhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-95931335/stock-photo-economic-desperationnn6. Markin - Athletic mature man drinking water from a bottlenhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-94923281/stock-photo-athletic-mature-man-drinking-water-from-a-bottlenn7. Konstik - The drunk man and is a lot of empty beer cans..nhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-45000427/stock-photo-the-drunk-man-and-is-a-lot-of-empty-beer-cansnn8. ragakawaw - The after work beer timenhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-66508492/stock-vector-the-after-work-beer-timenn9. trans961 - thirsty man reaches for a bottle of water in the emptynhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-85417094/stock-photo-thirsty-man-reaches-for-a-bottle-of-water-in-the-emptynn10. gurinaleksandr - Man Drinking Waternhttp://www.bigstockphoto.com/image-94241123/stock-photo-man-drinking-water Less
